THE JOURNEY: Feelings.....how are you suppose to feel. The more time that goes by I notice that most people either expect you to move on or they totally ignore the elephant in the room. Before anyone gets concerned about whether I'm OK or not I'll answer that right now. Yes, I feel great. I write about things as they hit me, so I just have to go with it. So back to the subject. Moving on is an option if we are willing to let go of the past and focus on the future. Speaking from experience you can move on and not forget. I think what happens is that we put our "everything is OK mask" on and what people see is that we have moved on. And to be honest my guess is that is exactly what they want. But really it shouldn't be about what they want but do you feel comfortable within yourself to take the step you need to take. As far as the elephant, it is interesting that even though a lot of people know about the death, it is usually easier for them to focus on you. I don't think it is anything but a protective mechanism all around. So I think it is up to us to remember in an appropriate way whatever that means. I was driving to the coast for business on Highway 30 in Oregon and I noticed a large number of memorial markers along the road. I couldn't help but think about all these people that had lost their lives. The marker doesn't tell their individual story, and is not going to be there forever. At some point it will disappear and the future won't know about that person. When I write these blogs I press a button and it goes out into the ether continuing on forever in theory. It is like looking at a star that has already exploded in the past, but you are still seeing the light reach your eyes prior to the explosion. OK, this is pretty heavy but fascinating. So here is what I would like to propose. If you feel comfortable, send me a short story of your loved one. I will create a separate section in each weeks blog and post your story along with my normal writings. Here is the amazing thing about what will happen when I hit the send button. Long after all of us are gone, your story will still be traveling thought space and in my mind someone in the distant future will be able to tap into that energy and read about your loved one. Oh my gosh. It seems like such a simple yet profound way to remember them forever. You helped yourself move on big time and you don't have to worry about the elephant any more. I know for me personally the thought of Barb traveling through space forever is not only entertaining but breath taking. I look forward to hearing about your special person and being able to share them with the universe.

TALK TO THE WIND

TALK TO THE WIND
RIDE THE WAVE
SEE WHERE IT GOES
AND WHO IT WILL TOUCH NEXT

IT ALWAYS ANSWERS
THROUGH ITS GENTLE PUSHING AND PULLING
OF NATURES GIFT TO MANKIND
FEEL IT AGAINST YOUR SKIN
BE ONE WITH ITS FLOW

SURPRISE YOURSELF
OPEN YOUR HEART
BE WITH THE FRIEND THAT HAS ALWAYS BEEN THERE
AND NEVER EXPECTED ANYTHING IN RETURN

ALLOW THE WIND TO TAKE YOUR THOUGHTS
TO OTHER PEOPLE AND PLACES
MAYBE THEY WILL LISTEN
AND RETURN THE THOUGHT SOMEDAY